Sunday, 30 December 2012

Reasons Why Our Society Is Underdeveloped by AYO FALETI

THE society is a reflection of the aggregate of values and priorities of its members. There are few things around us, both good and bad, that did not originate as a ‘thought’ in the mind of an individual or group of individuals. Consequently, if some societies are ordered and relatively more qualitative while others are in disarray, this is a direct result of the (in)actions of the inhabitants of these societies.
If you are an African, ask yourself these simple questions, and the reason for the dire circumstance of the mother continent will come home to you. Have you ever,

1. Entered a packed banking hall and instead of joining the queue, sought out the ‘sister of your friend’s cousin’ who happens to work somewhere in the building, in order to circumvent the queue and in the process increase the misery of those doing it the right way by prolonging their waiting times
2. Driven against the flow of traffic simply because it looks expedient at the time
3. Given money to the ubiquitous civil servant to ensure that your document gets signed on the same day, when the standard procedure is to wait for two weeks
4. Induced a police officer to look the other way because your car papers are not in order and you are too sloppy to attend to it
5. Manipulated the system to obtain admission for your ward, knowing full well that s/he did not merit such consideration, and in so doing deprive a better qualified candidate the opportunity
6. Known a friend/family member living ostensibly above their means and legitimate income and rather than question the anomaly, asked for your share of the unexplained windfall
7. Voted for someone simply because s/he is from your geographical region, religion, speaks the same language and other such spurious reasons, rather than the merit and fitness of the person
8. Heaped curses and abuses on your Local Government Chairperson, governor and president, and on that single occasion you had audience with the , became a wimp and instead spewed false adulations on him, calling him ‘the best thing since sliced bread....’
9. Evaded tax and duties, and then went ahead to bribe the Revenue Officer to issue you a fraudulent Tax Clearance Certificate
10. Obtained a drivers licence without actually being to a testing ground and passing the prescribed practice test
11. Paid less to clear your goods at the port
12. When caught-out one way or the other, is your disposition to take full responsibility for your actions or to immediately start thinking/looking for who can/will bail you out/shield you from the natural consequence of your actions
13. Turned-up late for work and blamed a non-existent traffic congestion
14. Are you the ultimate custodian of the ‘African Time’, always late for appointments
15. Do you live only to enjoy the titillations of your five senses, no matter the negative effect of your ‘enjoyment’ on others and society
16. Are you an academic but have not contributed anything to the body-stock of knowledge; your specialization is indolence and college politics
17. Taken money to vote in a particular way instead of voting your conscience
18. Covered the truth, thwarted the truth or hinder the arbiter of the truth for your own selfish/sinister motives





19. Held others to a higher ‘code of conduct’ than you demand of yourself
20. Taken money or other valuables under false pretences and justified it on the grounds of ‘this is the way it is done here...’
21. Having done the above, did you then enter the church/mosque or other religious congregation and gave testimonies of ‘God’s (or Allah’s) goodness’
22. Are you an integral part of your society’s problem and you do not even realise it
If ever, you answered ‘yes’ to many of the preceding posers, you have no ground to stand on and criticize your representatives; they after all represent what you stand for, your modus operandi, your values and your reward systems. The (wo)man to criticize and change is the one looking back at you in the mirror



Author of this article: AYO FALETI

Thursday, 27 December 2012

What If All You Have Been Told Was All A Lie?

Good morning folks,good morning free thinkers, good morning fanatics of different passions...have you ever wondered what if it was all a lie? all the stories we've been told and heard over a million times? Have you ever question this norm, well as you all know my blog is about dissecting the norm and questioning the way things are done! No i am not an atheist, I received this very interesting article from an anonymous source and it got me thinking in the direction of what if all we've been told  is a result of one person's twisted fantasy or as a result of lonely nights ? I will let you read and question reality against fantasy and come to your own conclusion or perhaps be lost in the arms of total confusion. Take your time, grab a coffee , pick your nose, twist your hair but make sure you read till the end and see where it gets you..

When a man falls foul of the law in his own book,when creeds and deeds do not match,when actions rebel against theories,there's bound to be trouble.When a shepherd,pretending to guide his flock through the straight and narrow path deviates to the broad road of luxury;his sheep,looking over their shoulders to discover he has swerved route,will revolt!.Pastor T.B Joshua went in partnership with the occult;as thieves share the spoil of plunders,flamboyant Chris Oyakhilome divided with scoundrels the ignominous gains of their frauds;great Bishop Oyedepo clads his own God in opulence;and gentle Ayo Oritsejafor,a sky pilot of the soul,rides on the wings of a private jet.Man can neither cheat nor outsmart Nature.His ignobility may be concealed beneath the veneer of decency,in his action will someday be heard the true voice of his trait.In other words,he may sprinkle himself with holy water, anoint his head with spiritual oil,and recite by heart all divine commandments.By corporal mortification he may execrate copulation,observe fasts and reduce himself to skeleton;Nature,the mocker of man,will tear from his face the mask behind which skulks his real character.

If we know anything about Jesus at all,we know he was a humble philosopher who endorsed spirituality and pauperism.Virtually all his doctrines and precepts acquired overtones of asceticism,puritanism,and to seal firm the faith of his followers,he advocated blessedness of poverty as the holiest medium through which man can enjoy an untainted relationship with God.Without placing much emphasis on his contempt for prosperity,let us consider some of his sayings in the Gospel,according to the books of Matthew and Luke.
Matth.5:3."blessed are the poor in spirit,for theirs is the kingdom of heaven".Matth.5:12."rejoice and be glad,for your reward is great in heaven".Matth.6:19."do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth,where moth and rust consume..."Matth.19:21"...if you would be perfect,go sell what you possess and give to the poor,and you will have treasure in heaven".Matth 19:24."again i tell you,it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a niddle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God".Luke 12:33."sell your possessions,and give alms".The parable he taught in the book of Luke 16:19-31,should not elude our cognizance,in which Dives,the magnificent rich man,who lavished in prosperity was depicted as a talking firewood in the flames of hell,not for having perpetrated any atrocity,not for having carried out a genocide,not for any justifiable reason whatsoever,except that he rolled in wealth and comfort while on earth.And Lazarus,a poor wretch in whose sores dogs sought their honey,was transported to Abraham's bosom,not for some wonders wrought on earth,not for any praiseworthy nor heroic accomplishment,but because he was poor.How glorifying it is to be poor.Judging from these scriptural passages,it is obvious that Jesus loathed the good life.He had preference for indigence over fortune--for rags and patches over silk and gold.Christ's aversion to affluence is excusable on the ground that he was a man like the rest of us.Prejudice underlines his problem.It is quite a shame that a moralistic teacher of so high a calibre like him should be acted upon by envy--an intrinsic passion to which human nature is often subject.Spinoza the incomparable pantheist said"It is a consolation to the wretched to have had companions in their misfortunes.On the other hand,the more despondent man believes himself to be below other people,the more will he sorrow;and this is the reason why none are more prone to envy than the despondent;and why they,above all others,try to observe men's actions with a view to finding fault with them rather than correcting them so that at last they praise nothing but despondency and glory in it.".In this brilliant illustration,Jesus' attitude to the rich finds a literal meaning.Jesus was born poor,never rose above beggar-hood and died in perfect poverty.No clearer testimony would suffice to demonstrate that the aforementioned"men of God"have subverted the true teachings of their founder.By lifting from their heads the cowl of piety,they have left the breast of their religion wide open to be sheathed with the daggers of criticism.


From infancy,we are fed alongside our mothers' milk with interesting myths and legends.They teach us that a perfect God created this world,that in the course of His creation He mixed with the sweat of his labour some dust of the earth to mold man,and at the completion of His work,satisfied that all He had created was good,commanded man to glorify him forever or be damned for all eternity.Although a big question mark still hangs over what activity this God was engaged in before the creation and where He got the raw materials to commence His work. Egypt,being the womb of civilization,was the first nation to commit into writing the minds of the gods,Horus,Osiris,Isis--the maiden triune gods in history.In the Lliad and the Odyssey,Homer gave to the world the best of Greek pantheon,tradition,and poetry.Ancient India published her"Rigveda"--a collection of hymns and prayers dedicated to a multitude of frightful gods.The egg laid by Hinduism was hatched by rebellious Guatamah and Buddhism was born.As a pillar of cloud by day,and by night in a pillar of fire,Jehovah marshaled His chosen people from captivity to a desert flowing with milk and honey;and from Judaism,Christianity and Islam received their inspiration.Some of these religions are relatives,but those in which veins flow the same blood are the sworn enemies of the other.Buddhism fouled the nest of Hinduism,and in consequence suffered untold persecution.Judaism's Torah disowned her troublesome progeny--Christianity and Islam,and her disinherited offspring's the Bible and the Quran,refuse to shake hands.Each of these monotheistic faiths claims monopoly on truth and vehemently denounces the other of falsification.Judaism still rests her confidence in Moses;to Christians,salvation is a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow without faith in Jesus,and at the top of them all the Arabs elevated Muhammad as God's favourite.To strike a chord,let us cite two examples of usual religious upbringing commonly known to us.The christian parent tells her child:"son,do you know that God and Jesus are siblings of the same stock:sandwiched between them is the Holy Ghost.They are three distinct forces but in unity one.God is the father,Jesus is the son,and the Holy Spirit the obedient messenger.To humanity Christ is the most important gift--a saviour upon whom the entire race must pin their hopes.All the instructions that will make you moral and enjoy eternal life have been documented in the Bible.You must read and digest as true every word you find in this book,for it is the bread of life.To deny this divine writ is as unpardonable as betraying Jesus for another thirty pieces of silver.He who hath ears to hear let him hear".The Muslim parent takes her own son by the collar and sounds this dicta in his ears:"Allah is one and Muhammad is His prophet.You must not be hospitable to any other religion.Ours is a religion of peace,and hence we do not tolerate plurality of faith.As like a steamroller,we crush to dust every opposition that stands in our way.Mecca is the holy land,and against the Kaaba leans a ladder that ascends straight to heaven.Engrave in your heart the commands of Allah;He demands total submission,for His word is law.To scoff at the Quran is as outrageous as filling with pork and wine the mouth of the holy prophet.You had better surrender to Islam or curse the day you were born!".If these children,whose impressionable minds have been propagated for dogmatic-ism did not stray from their parents' whistle,they would most probably grow up to become tough bigots.


What is unfortunate is that none of these doctrines have credible foundation in fact,Frankly speaking,all the purported dreams and meditations through which these gods communicated to men their thoughts are nothing more than fancies,woven by frenzied human imagination.The intellect cannot answer how,when,where and why existence came into being.This is the noblest truth an honest man can spread.Each and every of those books claiming inspiration has been exposed to be contrary to all verified facts.They are not a"necessary truth".None was actually written to tell the true fact of life.To cut a long story short,they are primitive books of traditional tales devised by ignorance and recorded by arrogance for no significant reason than to glorify their cultures,and push to the forefront of the human race the mystical exploits of their ancestors.Jesus,too,was a victim of this error.In the book of Math.15:21-28,one can easily understand the pride he took in his tribe,where,by addressing Israelite as little children,equated Canaanites to dogs.An exemplary model of perfection indeed.The same spirits that founded these two superior religions still control the lives of adherent believers who pay obeisance to them.Sophistry leveled the rough ground whereon christianity was built.By coercion and violence,Islam has with brute force won large territories to her infamous credit.As a result,hypocrisy,if it is not a virtue,has almost become instinctive in the christian as stealth is to cat.And the jihadist,in this modern age,is still eager to wet with blood the scimitar that his prophet has put in his hand.What is important that you should know is that all the stories and commandments detailed in these books are the words of different men,not of any God.The misconceived ideas of life's meaning and purpose with which these books are laden account for the reason they are continually reviewed for amendment from one generation to another.If they were truly the words of God as they claim,they would be unalterable.To edit and give transitory interpretations to the written letters of an infallible God is to accuse that deity of mistake.Laws of Nature are immutable.They defy change.The sun is not proud;death is ever red in tooth and claw;rains and storms remain indifferent;the volcano vomits her lava anytime her stomach churns;and gravitation's rule, in spite of conditions,continueth faithful.Religious dogmas are not universal facts,but provincial myths with confusing sign posts leading to conflicting destinations.Since none can be ascertained as fact,since none can be demonstrated to be true,man is therefore under no obligation to follow any.When confronted with the problem of truth,it would make some sense to call to memory the words of Aristotle:which is,"To say that that which is,is not or that which is not is,is a falsehood;and to say that which is,is and that which is not is not,is true".Suppose a man should tell another man that:"could you believe that yesterday i levitated about fifteen feet attitude above ground level and,after almost soaring in parallel height with birds,i descended calmly and landed back on the same spot,without any external support";since the listener,reasonable enough to know that everyday happenings contradict such phenomenal feat,did not see him duplicate the said magic before his very eyes,he has a right to disclaim it as a fallacy.If his discretion can reject such claim,today,so also he has the right to discredit unascertained miracles,especially those popular ones imputed to long buried unknown men.Man's thoughts and beliefs are his properties.A curse it is to bind a man to the opinions of another man.Each mind is a palace wherein the owner,being a royalty on the throne,must be allowed to rule with absolute sovereignty.To force  another man to accept your beliefs is to assault the manhood of that man,and those who embrace with certitude,or attest to the verity of hearsay's and revelations to which they are not eye-witnesses travesty all moral codes of truth and justice.On the enigmatic subject of origin,purpose,and destiny,everyone has the innate right,depending on what impression things convey to him,to evaluate propositions for himself and think out the questions of life according to the constitution of his brain,provided he does no harm to the freedom and happiness of others.This is a positive philosophy--liberty of thought and soul,without which reason is a manacled prisoner..

Scores of enlightened men now know that the garden of Eden never existed,that God never engaged Pharaoh's priests in sleight of hand contest,that the Old and New testaments are irreconcilable that all the miracles ascribed to Christ carry in hands relics of extinct pagan gods,and that Muhammad was in delirium when he storied out his dialogue with"the angel Gabriel".Gods and prophets come like the weather:they have no permanent effect on mankind,and as transient as varying seasons,away into obscurity they must all fade.Zeus' thunderbolts had long ceased to send shiver down the world's spine.Modern Jews no longer gorge Jehovah with burnt offerings because they now realise their ancestors who wasted animals on such stupid sacrifices were rather mistaken than balanced.In present day Europe,in contrast to the days of The Crusade and The Inquisition,it is considered a heinous crime of grotesque insanity for faith to pile faggots at the feet of heresy.Here in our own land,the Yoruba tribe now live with less fear on recognition that Sango's flaming belch has been extinguished;other local gods being exhibited for amusement in museums of antiques and artifacts.With the winds of science blowing across the globe,howling newly discovered truths,exhuming countless prehistoric fossilized forms of life, unraveling with trained hands facts from fictions,the hour has come for religion to lay down her sceptre.The dumb masses have kissed the rods of her professors long enough.The greatest foe of every religion is secularism.That is to say,secular education.To them doubts and skepticism are outlaws,reason is the toolbox of deviltry,and demand for facts and evidence,when taken to the extreme,is a loose cannon.Knowledge holds aloft the beacon,intelligence treads gracefully in its light;faith abets gullibility,which is dangerous,and religion joined in body with superstition spawns misery.For a man to be saturated with faith,he must not only pluck out the seeing eyes of reason,he must also be mentally blind.What happens in the real world throws no light at him.To illusion he succumbs his soul to be led,the gambols of rosy children of advancement he gleefully mocks,and every sweet fruit of progress soils with bitterness his dull tongue.With his back turned to the glorious dawn of civilization,he scouts for hope in fable nights of barbarism.And as ignorance is the coffin in which the corpse of credulity must be buried,priests of every sect make it their business to shut all doors and close every window through which the air and light of intelligence could penetrate into the mind.They detest to see the horizon broadened.They prefer it constricted or shuttered.Fully aware of what threats scientific enquiries pose to their schemes,the Muhammadans brandish before heretics their cold steel;and Christians,who have been educated to love their enemies,take the path of least resistance;but using the Bible,they also employ as their weapon the apocalyptic revelation of John.Within its hallucinatory pages they find texts with which to frighten infidels and promises that entrust in the keeping of devout parishioners the keys of heaven.This they call faith--the sacred key that unlocks all heaven's mansions.But where are these heavens and hells?In which realm are these supernatural countries located?.How high the"New Jerusalem"is from the earth,astronomers cannot survey;how deep below the ground the hell is,geologists are still busy digging.Lazarus,a returned tourist from the grave never hinted at having been welcomed with open arms by angels,he said nothing about the beauty and splendor of heaven,nothing about his relaxation in purgatory,and he heard no cries,no wailing's nor the gnashing of teeth.Upon that subject,he was as quiet as the tomb in which he had lodged for four days,when his attention was summoned back to life.From this account,the faithful believers draw no logical inference.They sing and clap and dance in exultation yet they moan and groan and sink in destitution.With prayers and tongue speaking they tilt at windmills to exorcise from the mind the evil created by their own deluded imagination.All their energy and wealth and poverty are equally misdirected in flattering and appeasing the wrath of a loving God whose mercy endureth forever.Poor souls--poor souls.Truly,they are many during praise and worship;however,in body in Christ they do not mingle.They are neatly demarcated on basis of class and caste.At the spiritual feast of thanksgiving,the heavyweights,flanked by the middle-class on both sides,slouch at the centre of the banquet while backbenchers who are saddled with the chores and upkeeping of the cathedral are relegated to scramble for crumbs and crusts below the table.The sweet fellowship of the holy spirit fails to bridge the poor rich cleavage of the church;and as a rule,in any congregation where oppression and discrimination are winners,the brethren love mantra is nought but word of mouth.Some of these preachers recognize the faults and falsity of their trades,but because they are being hired by simpletons to testify in favor of lies,they agree to swim with the tides,or,or what? or be booted out of office.Poor men--poor men.If there's anytime when these impostors must be ousted from the pulpit,we say it is now.They contribute nothing of value to human progress.They indulge in no reasonable work except in fishing for souls,and the more souls that rise to their bait,the fuller their basket.They erect no charity house to feed and clothe,and shelter the destitute.They build few poorly equipped hospitals doctored by like-unskilled physicians as them,and to be honest,they founded some good schools.But not for the benefit of the struggling and less privileged,not to educate the devotees from whose nescience they secure their dishonest bread,but to attract the well-heeled and top notch politicians,several of whom they know are dubious and corrupt to the last degree.Instead of teaching basic principles of cause and effect,they systematically countenance crimes on ground of confession and forgiveness.Proudly promoting this offer,crooked statesmen become their allies,rogues and harlots their notable sponsors,and with the bowed head of fraud beneath their holy hands they multiply blessings on financial legerdemain.By sanctified force and craftiness,they bend ethical rules to accommodate these pious rascals:ergo,they stain the society with vices they confidently affirm can be cleansed with the blood of their lamb.The preachers deceive them,the hearers deceive themselves,and both maintain sincerity with God."It is well".Intellectually they are as static as their holy books.They make no discoveries and produce nothing.From the altar is served no nourishing food for thought.They merely harp on the same string every sunday:"God is in control,when God says yes no man can say no,God works in a miraculous way,God loves a cheerful giver".Thus by passing round the hat on behalf of their pauper God,they swindle the pew and fill their own greedy pockets with offerings donated to their cunning emotionalism.By the way,what impudent right has man to enrich God?Does the Almighty stand in need of man's favour?Will heaven starve if man refused to tithe one-tenth of income earned?.Why the unconditioned should demand from the conditioned is a mystery that racks the mind with sheer perplexity.Want,as we understand it,is an appetite--a desire to obtain something which one lacks.An omnipresent, omniscient,and omnipotent God cannot be found deficient of anything.If God is all-powerful,He cannot lack;He has in abundance everything he needs to preserve his existence.Necessity as an attribute of any God does away with perfection.Man is finite and imperfect:he has desires to fulfill needs to satisfy,limitations restrain him,and he's ruthlessly swayed by passions of hope,fear,love,joy,and sorrow amongst many which increase and lessen his power of action,and in the long run,cut his life off.On the contrary,God is infinite,therefore indestructible.Before eternity He was,back of eternity He progresses endlessly.If God is everlasting,He exists for no end;a being that has no end acts for no end.His almightiness shields Him from effects and affects,and the passionless with no purpose neither gives nor receives.But if it is insisted that God's sustenance is dependent on the assistance of man,then in that sense,God,the Creator,becomes a stringed puppet controlled at leisure by His creation,man.

Man's duty is to man.Man should learn from man;he should seek to benefit and improve the condition of another man,if he can,and stop wasting his resources on these gods.Invisible invincible entities will take care of themselves.All known gods have nothing tangible to offer.They all boast health and happiness yet inflict the world with pains and maladies.They all promise life yet above its head they put the crown of death.Still these divine agents always find excuses to give weight to their power--these anointed parasites who fatten on fear and ignorance do not stop at their childish threats of hell,they also point to the fear of death as a warning of future punishment that awaits sinners and unbelievers.We know what their game is,so their declaration does not petrify us.Not in the slightest.The fear of death is as natural as the love of life.We all know that happiness is the primary aim,and preservation the principal goal of life.In addition to this,daily experience teaches us that the common fate that dominates the consciousness of all living animals is the fear of the Mysterious Beyond.Every living thing,from the highest intelligence down to the basest beast,recoils from danger and fights by all means to cling to life.Inspired bibles are books about which lower animals know nothing.They have no idea of baptism,and holiness as a gateway to paradise is a conception that never enters their mind yet the approaching shadow of death seizes them with terror.The chameleon,with its camouflaged skin,confuses the slimy serpent;the antelope foils the hunter's trap;the bellows of crocodiles inform the baboon not to cross the river;man,a rational being in whose heart love has enshrined immortality dreads staring disaster in the eyes;driven to the open jaws of death,in horror and trembling,even a drowning prophet will clutch at a straw.It is not surprising that Christ,the supposed Savior of the world,cried out:"Oh my God,why hath thou forsaken me".He set the perfect example that justifies this natural fear.From a reasonable standpoint,men and women who have bettered the lives of fellow humans,who have flooded the lives of others with joy and sunshine will be happy Hereafter,if there be one.To discharge one's duty in accordance with perceived moral obligation is to practice the purest art of virtue conceivable.Marking attendance in temples does not make a man righteous any more than taking off sandals before a burning bush makes him holy and acceptable to God,if there be any.So long as man esteems priesthood above brotherhood,peace and justice will be far from humanity's grasp.So long as man opens his mouth in amazement to swallow hook,line and sinker the claims of these"appointed men",the poor soul he strives to save will not escape the net of superstition.

Fearless freethinkers have thrown down the gauntlet:the charge is thus thrust upon these divine soldiers to pick up the challenge and cross swords,or desert the arena in acquiescence that they possess no steeled candor to fight out this battle.Thank you.

Tuesday, 25 December 2012

The Dangers Of Fixing Eye Lashes

False eyelashes and your eyes


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Along with everything else that people have withstood for the sake of looking more attractive, fixing of artificial eyelashes is one more potentially risky item to add to the list.
Eyelash fixing has become an increasingly popular trend in the fashion world, becoming a must-have for women seeking perfection and a glamorous look, however, neglecting its health implications, reports Doyin Adeoye
Available in an array of hues and textures, in full or individual strands, these false eyelashes last for days or weeks and little wonder they have become a must have for many women.
Although eyelash elongation creates a dazzling look to the eye, making it speak volumes. It creates a better alternative to applying coats of mascara to make the eyes stand out. It is however accompanied with health risks.
Overlooked health issues accompany this quest for beauty, as artificial eyelashes are applied directly to the natural eyelashes with a bonding agent, which are irritants that can cause discomfort and potential eye damage in severe cases.
Described by many as a beautification that adds length and fullness to the natural eyelashes, many women do not know that eyelashes elongation asides its glamor is also accompanied with other negative effects.
In the process of getting an eyelash fixed, many of its seekers concur that it is not painful and that the cost is fair. This is probably a reason for the increase in the number of ladies and women that patronize beauticians to have their eyelashes fixed.
The road side beauticians, are often patronized because of their relatively lower prices, ranging from N200 to N1000. Simple as  they seem, the process of getting the artificial eyelash attached to the natural ones is done within minutes. But as short as the time frame is, the process is obviously one that puts the eyes at risk.
Aside having to sit still and keep the eyes open till it is done, the beautician applies the lashes to the eye with a glue and often times, most of them make the lashes stick with the aid of a toothpick. Two reasons obviously make the idea of a toothpick appalling, first, it is a sharp object and secondly, the same toothpick is often used for all customers.
Although the dazzling effect is achieved almost immediately, the problem often sets in few minutes later, when the eye becomes hyper sensitive to everything around it.
Women with very sensitive eyes might feel uncomfortable at the beginning, as the eye takes a moment to get accustomed with the new weight. Complaints from many first time users range from tension on the eyelids as a result of the glue, to watery eyes and heavy eyelids and if forcefully removed, the lashes pull off the natural lashes.
Studies show that repeated use of eyelash extensions can cause Traction Alopecia, a condition where the hair falls out due to excessive tension placed on the hair shaft. As a result, this can damage the hair follicle.
Using potent chemicals on the eyelashes make them fall out more quickly than they naturally would. While the life span of a lash is normally about five months for a new one to take its place, artificial eyelashes causes the eyelashes to shed two months after the procedure. Not only would it make the eyelashes become noticeably sparser, they may become brittle as well and break off, appearing much shorter.
Also at some point, bacteria sticks under the glue and to the artificial eyelashes, thereby causing infections. There must be a limit to the use of artificial eyelashes to prevent infection as well as eye injury. Both the eyelashes and the glue contain chemicals that can cause an adverse reaction for some individuals.
A better approach to it is to first test glue on the wrist or at the back of the hand, before using it on the eyes. This would reflect the reaction that would be shown by the individual.  
Reactions from many users include difficulties in washing the face, having to be very careful around the eyes, sharp pain in the eye, constant discharge from the eye, watery eyes, heavy eyelids among others.  
According to Rosette Articles, the side effects of fixing artificial eyelashes included discomfort, which may follow after fixing of the lashes. Although the effect is temporary because the small hairs are placed individually to the eyelids, however, there will be pain, swelling and tenderness that are felt around the eyelid after the procedure.
Another effect is pruritus, a condition where there is moderate or intense itching of the eye. This can be relieved with ice packs and ointment too. Refrain from scratching also and you can wear goggles at night to prevent it.
The third effect is swelling, which shows on the first few days after the eyelashes have been implanted.  
According to the International Society of Hair Restoration Surgery, another effect is endotropion, which causes trichiasis wherein the eyelashes grow in the wrong direction and going into the eye. Finally, infections may arise, either from poor performance or unhygienic workmanship.
According to Ifeoma Anyawu Anyawu, a model, the effect is undesirable, “I don’t really like it, but for my profession. It affects my eyeball. It itches and I sometimes feel like I have particles in my eyes,” she said.
Daniel Afolabi (Student): “I love the way it looks on women, it makes them look more beautiful. I’m okay with it and I love to see it on my woman.
Oyinlola Oyedeji (Administrative personnel): “Personally, I don’t like artificial eyelashes. I can’t stand the fact that I’ll leave my eye open why they pick on my eyelashes. I wonder what women gain from it. Are they not scared that the glue might fall into their eyeball? Why would we want to risk our sight” all in the name of fashion? I’m totally against it. I’m sure in 20 years from now, a lot of women would have problems with their sight.
Dr Gboyega Ajayi of the Eleta Eye Institute, Ibadan, highlighted two ways the fixing of false eye lashes can be hazardous to the human eye.
“Many complaints are often associated with irritation. A lot of people become irritated as a result of having something new around the eye. Also, another common effect is allergic reactions. Some ladies tend to be sensitive to the chemicals used and as such it can provoke reactions from them.
“Exposure to these substances demands different reactions from different people and the best way to tackle this is to visit an eye clinic once reactions set in, to avoid extreme cases,” he advised.

culled from http://tribune.com.ng/news2013/index.php/en/component/k2/item/1432-false-eyelashes-and-your-eyes

Tuesday, 18 December 2012

Know Your Level In Your Church ( An Eye Opener )


I read a post on Nairaland.com and would like to share it with my readers so we can view religion from another perspective


Religion to Nigerians is not so much about its content, but about an identity. A girl who spent all Saturday night in the club or even Being Intimate with her boyfriend/aristo will wake up by 7am, have her bath, dress up and she is in church. That Muslim chap that hides his alcohol inside his prayer kettle would do his Ablution and head for the Mosque on friday. Its now a part of what they do. It has no real meaning to them. Thats why a convicted felon would go straight from the prisons to a church for thanksgiving.

Immorality is very high in Nigeria right now, corruption, crime and all sorts of vices.. Yet every Sunday, the churches are filled to capacity.

To the Rich/upper middle-class Nigerians, Church is nothing but a social gathering where they can come into contact with the poor and subconsciously oppress them. Thats why its easier for a rich man to see the pastor than it is for a Poor Church Usher to even enter the Pastors office, let alone see him. They don't pray as hard as the poor, they come late and leave early, they get choice seats in church, they get special invites to every occasion and the pastor always answers their calls personally. This class only attend church on SUNDAYS!!


To the lower-middle class/independent entrepreneurs  Church is nothing but another avenue to meet potential clients. These ones get access to the pastors, but not as easily as the rich folks. They can get a Pastor to pray for them, but cant get a pastor to come to their houses. This class would attend Church on Sundays and are always at house-fellowships (as this is where they c=get to interact with the rich).

The Poor, To them, Church represents hope. This class are the most dedicated members of the church. they sweep the church, they make up over 75% of the churches workers, they are very loyal to the pastors, they pray the hardest, loudest and longest. They are the first to arrive in church and the last to leave. To them, they really do believe that if you pray hard enough, manna will fall from the skies. They are the most committed. This class can never see the pastor at will. In fact  they will be lucky if they can get the pastors number let alone speak to him one on one. They come to church every sunday hoping for a miracle. They dress their best but always come short. They eat at the feet of the rich & upper middle class who use them as they like.


The Politicians need religion for control. They use it for election purposes and to keep the masses under control. A christian wouldn't kill a Politician that is stealing him blind because of religion. And he is so shackled by the religion that he cant even fight the system, so he prays to God for a solution to a problem that is within his control.



Religion is not important to Nigerians, its now a habit.

Sadly, we have chosen foreign gods like the Jewish god and the Persian god. Abandoning our local gods. If we still actively worshiped Amadioha, by now, someone would have dragged their governor before Amadioha and made him swear with his life if he stole our money during his tenure or not.. By now, a Yoruba man would have dragged his council man before Sango to swear if that fake road was truly tarred with 15 billion Naira. IN FACT  ALL OATHS OF OFFICES WOULD BE TAKEN IN FRONT OF AN ORACLE.. Maybe, just maybe, things would not have been this bad.



In case youve forgotten religion was brought by missionaries who in turn took away our fore fathers as slaves.

Saturday, 15 December 2012

How My Cousin Raped Me ( A Victim Of Rape Shares Her Story)



The word rape sometimes sound like a taboo and victims are afraid to come out and talk about it for the fear of disbelief and ridicule, rape exists in our society and many rapists go Scot free after this evil acts , i got this story from an anonymous source and would like to share it with the world so we can learn..all the names in this story has been changed to protect the identity of the victim.

My name is Tope

I never thought that I would do this. I mean i don't like to talk about what happened. I really have no-one to talk to.

I feel responsible for something that happened to my niece. She is my niece by marriage but still my niece. If i had been stronger then nothing would have happened to her. It's all my fault.

I guess you might want to hear the story first. Of course afterwards you'll know how come i feel this way.

When i was 8, my nightmare started. I was molested by my cousin Seun. He is 8 years older than me, he was 16 when it started. At first it was just a touch here or there. Eventually it became more. He was always welcome in my home, which meant he basically had full access to me whenever he wanted. He would make me touch him and play with him. I hated it, I wanted to throw up. He would come to my room in the middle of the night. I was the only girl in my family, so i didn't share a room with anyone.

He molested for years. When i was 12, he decided that i needed to know how to have sex. He took my virginity one night. When i look back, i think how could I have been so stupid, I could've yelled. My parents would've heard or one of my brothers, but I didn't. He raped me that night and told me that he could have me anytime he wanted. I knew this was true. I hated being in the same room as any man or male. I thought I was going to die that night, it hurt so bad. He continued to rape me for 8 more years.

When i was 14, I met a wonderful guy, or so i thought. I'll call him Lekan. Lekan was wonderful at first. He was a true friend. He finally asked me one night what was wrong. I told him about my cousin. He was so helpful, he told me anytime i needed him to call him and he would be there. We stayed close for 2 years. When i was 16, i thought about killing myself so my cousin couldn't hurt me anymore. He had started to rape me anally so that i wouldn't get pregnant. I thought the pain before was bad but it was nothing compared to being raped anally.

Lekan was the there to talk to me and when he realized i wanted to kill myself, he told me I had to stand up to him. A few nights later my cousin came into my room and was going to rape me again. I had hide a knife and i told him if he came near me i would use it. I felt awful, I'd never threatened a another person before but I was happy I had did it.

I started dating Lekan after another year. At first things were great. He treated me great. Then things started to change, at frist he would get jealous over nothing. Then the hitting and eventually he started to force himself on me if I said no. It eventually got strange, it took me 3 years to dump him but I did it and I was so happy. He stalked me and would threaten me but I didn't let him scare me. I stood up to him and it was then that I knew I'd be alright.

I know now your wondering how that has anything to do with my niece. Well my cousin tried to force himself on her. He touched her and made her really uncomfortable. I feel that if I had told someone then that would've never happened to her. What's even worse than that is that he lives with my brother and his wife. They have 2 small daughters, ages 5 and 1. I'm afraid for him to be there with them, but I'm even more more afraid that if i tell what happened to me, that no one will believe me.
I now have a wonderful husband that knows about the abuse. He was the one who told me what happened to my niece. At first he did't want anyone to tell me about it. It hurt her for the first time after it happened I knew something was wrong. I asked her and she told me. When I started crying she had no idea that it was because i could've saved her that pain, but I was a coward.

I am afraid of coming out; afraid that no one will believe me for the fact that i didnt come out and say this earlier but the scars live with me everyday of my life. Readers be careful who you entrust you children to , be careful wary of everyone especially family members because your children tend to trust them and this evil people betray the trust and damage your children's life at a tender age.

Listen to your children , observe them, ask them questions about their day , dont be distant ...you are totally responsible for their upkeep thats why youre a parent or a guardian.

Thank you

Friday, 14 December 2012

Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat


Number 10
Your lady doesn't put out
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start "working late" more often.

Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn't want to try new things in bed, or won't perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don't want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their "good girl" image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , "That's the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!"

In light of this, I call on lawmakers around the world to create an International BJ Day, where men and women get the day off from work and get all the oral satisfaction they need from their partners. I'll bet that this alone would cut infidelity by at least 75%.


Number 9
She cheated on you
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they've had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that's efficiency.

Number 8
It's challenging and exciting
If you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.




Number 7
You can get away with it
"What eyes don't see, the heart doesn't feel," goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.

Number 6
It boosts your ego
Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he'll return to his mate; or not.

What's a guy to do when his girlfriend's-a-naggin' and opportunity comes-a-knockin'? 


Number 5
The opportunity was there
It's an uncontested fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it's a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it's a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.

Number 4
Your girlfriend is a nag
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.

Number 3
Women let us
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it's their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men's infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.



Number 2
She doesn't turn you on anymore
Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.

Number 1
You don't love her anymore
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it's almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.

Your Cheating Heart
In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem.

Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it's only an anesthetic -- not a long-term solution.

culled from askmen.com


Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Girls That Steal ( Article on Kleptomania)



Have you ever wondered why a well to do girl that probably uses a black berry bold 5 is caught stealing a Nokia 3310 or perhaps why a rich pretty girl is caught stealing under wear worth 500naira or you've wondered why some rich people are caught stealing something they can afford? Have you ever been embarrassed by your girl stealing your own phone? well this article answers your question; forget about the common Nigerian superstitious belief and religious balderdash such as, she is under a curse or evil spirits are disturbing her ..those are total rubbish ! We end up beating this victims black and blue sometimes stripping them naked without really knowing that they are suffering from a mental condition called Kleptomania


Kleptomania is the irresistible urge to steal items that you generally don't really need and that usually have little value. Kleptomania (klep-toe-MAY-knee-uh) is a serious mental health disorder that can cause much emotional pain to you and your loved ones if not treated.

Kleptomania is a type of impulse control disorder — a disorder in which you can't resist the temptation or drive to perform an act that's harmful to you or someone else.

Many people with kleptomania live lives of secret shame because they're afraid to seek mental health treatment. Although there's no cure for kleptomania, treatment with medication or psychotherapy may be able to help end the cycle of compulsive stealing.


Kleptomania symptoms may include:

Powerful urges to steal items that you don't need
Feeling increased tension leading up to the theft
Feeling pleasure or gratification while stealing
Feeling terrible guilt or shame after the theft
A powerful urge
Unlike typical shoplifters, people with kleptomania don't compulsively steal for personal gain. Nor do they steal as a way to exact revenge. They steal simply because the urge is so powerful that they can't resist it. This urge makes them feel uncomfortably anxious, tense or aroused. To soothe these feelings, they steal.

During the theft, they feel relief and gratification. Afterward, though, they may feel enormous guilt, remorse, self-loathing and fear of arrest. But the urge comes back, and the kleptomania cycle repeats itself.

Spontaneous occurrences and public places
Episodes of kleptomania generally occur spontaneously, without planning. Most people with kleptomania steal from public places, such as stores and supermarkets. Some may steal from friends or acquaintances, such as at a party. Often, the stolen items have no value to the person with kleptomania. The stolen items are usually stashed away, never to be used. Items may also be donated, given away to family or friends, or even secretly returned to the place from which they were stolen.

When to see a doctor
If you can't stop shoplifting or stealing, seek medical advice. Many people who may have kleptomania don't want to seek treatment because they're afraid they'll be arrested or jailed. A mental health provider doesn't have to report your thefts to authorities, however. Getting treatment may help you gain control over your kleptomania.

If a loved one has kleptomania
If you suspect a close friend or family member may have kleptomania, gently raise your concerns with your loved one. Keep in mind that kleptomania is a mental health condition, not a character flaw, and approach your loved one without blame or accusation.

It may be helpful to emphasize the following points:

You're concerned because you care about your loved one's health and well-being.
You're worried about the risks of compulsive stealing, such as being arrested, losing a job or damaging a valued relationship.
You understand that, with kleptomania, the urge to steal may be too strong to resist just by "putting your mind to it."
Effective treatments are available to minimize the urge to steal and help your loved one live without addiction and shame.
If you need help preparing for this conversation, talk with your doctor. He or she may refer you to a mental health provider who can help you plan a way of raising your concerns without making your loved one feel defensive or threatened.
Causes

The cause of kleptomania isn't known. There are several theories that suggest that changes in the brain may be at the root of kleptomania. Kleptomania may be linked to problems with a naturally occurring brain chemical (neurotransmitter) called serotonin. Serotonin helps regulate moods and emotions. Low levels of serotonin are common in people prone to impulsive behaviors.

Kleptomania also may be related to addictive disorders, and stealing may cause the release of dopamine (another neurotransmitter). Dopamine causes pleasurable feelings, and some people seek this rewarding feeling again and again.

Other research has found that kleptomania can occur after someone sustains a head injury. More research is needed to better understand all of these possible causes of kleptomania

Kleptomania is considered uncommon. However because many people with kleptomania never seek treatment, or they're simply jailed after repeated thefts, many cases of kleptomania may never be diagnosed. It's thought that fewer than 5 percent of shoplifters have kleptomania. Kleptomania often begins during adolescence or in young adulthood, but in rare cases it begins after 50 years of age.

Kleptomania risk factors may include:

Family history. Having a first-degree blood relative, such as a parent or sibling, with kleptomania or obsessive-compulsive disorder may increase your risk of kleptomania.
Being female. Approximately two-thirds of people with known kleptomania are women.
Having another mental illness. People with kleptomania often have other mental illnesses, such as bipolar disorder, anxiety disorder, eating disorders, substance abuse or personality disorders.
Head trauma or brain injuries. People who've experienced a head trauma may develop kleptomania.

So people lets try to help those who we suspect are suffering from this condition .

Monday, 10 December 2012

Check Your Boobby Today ! ( Article On Breast Cancer)



So now let's get right into it

Breast cancer is a cancer that starts in the tissues of the breast. There are two main types of breast cancer:

Ductal carcinoma starts in the tubes (ducts) that move milk from the breast to the nipple. Most breast cancers are of this type.

Lobular carcinoma starts in the parts of the breast, called lobules, that produce milk.

In rare cases, breast cancer can start in other areas of the breast.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

Over the course of a lifetime, 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer.

Risk factors you cannot change include:

Age and gender -- Your risk of developing breast cancer increases as you get older. Most advanced breast cancer cases are found in women over age 50. Women are 100 times more likely to get breast cancer than men.

Family history of breast cancer -- You may also have a higher risk for breast cancer if you have a close relative who has had breast, uterine, ovarian, or colon cancer. About 20 - 30% of women with breast cancer have a family history of the disease.

Genes -- Some people have genes that make them more likely to develop breast cancer. The most common gene defects are found in the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes. These genes normally produce proteins that protect you from cancer. If a parent passes you a defective gene, you have an increased risk for breast cancer. Women with one of these defects have up to an 80% chance of getting breast cancer sometime during their life.

Being overweight or obese increases the risk of breast cancer.

Menstrual cycle -- Women who got their periods early (before age 12) or went through menopause late (after age 55) have an increased risk for breast cancer.

Other risk factors include:

Alcohol use -- Drinking more than 1 - 2 glasses of alcohol a day may increase your risk for breast cancer, so that bottle of free champagne you get in the club or beach might be killing you( osho free girls)

Childbirth -- Women who have never had children or who had them only after age 30 have an increased risk for breast cancer. Being pregnant more than once or becoming pregnant at an early age reduces your risk of breast cancer.

DES -- Women who took diethylstilbestrol (DES) to prevent miscarriage may have an increased risk of breast cancer after age 40. This drug was given to the women in the 1940s - 1960s.

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) -- You have a higher risk for breast cancer if you have received hormone replacement therapy with estrogen for several years or more.Obesity --

Radiation -- If you received radiation therapy as a child or young adult to treat cancer of the chest area, you have a much higher risk for developing breast cancer. The younger you started such radiation and the higher the dose, the higher your risk -- especially if the radiation was given during breast development.

Breast implants, using antiperspirants, and wearing under-wire bras do not raise your risk for breast cancer. There is no evidence of a direct link between breast cancer and pesticides.

Symptoms

Early breast cancer usually does not cause symptoms. This is why regular breast exams are important. As the cancer grows, symptoms may include:

Breast lump or lump in the armpit that is hard, has uneven edges, and usually does not hurt

Change in the size, shape, or feel of the breast or nipple -- for example, you may have redness, dimpling, or puckering that looks like the skin of an orange

Fluid coming from the nipple -- may be bloody, clear to yellow, green, and look like pus

Men can get breast cancer, too. Symptoms include breast lump and breast pain and tenderness.

Symptoms of advanced breast cancer may include:

Bone pain

Breast pain or discomfort

Skin ulcers

Swelling of one arm (next to the breast with cancer)

Weight loss

Signs and tests

The doctor will ask you about your symptoms and risk factors. Then the doctor will perform a physical exam, which includes both breasts, armpits, and the neck and chest area.

Tests used to diagnose and monitor patients with breast cancer may include:

Breast MRI to help better identify the breast lump or evaluate an abnormal change on a mammogram

Breast ultrasound to show whether the lump is solid or fluid-filled

Breast biopsy, using methods such as needle aspiration, ultrasound-guided, stereo-tactic, or open

CT scan to see if the cancer has spread

Mammography to screen for breast cancer or help identify the breast lump

PET scan

Sentinal lymph node biopsy to see if the cancer has spread

If your doctor learns that you do have breast cancer, more tests will be done to see if the cancer has spread. This is called staging. Staging helps guide future treatment and follow-up and gives you some idea of what to expect in the future.

Breast cancer stages range from 0 to IV. The higher the staging number, the more advanced the cancer.

Treatment

Treatment is based on many factors, including:

Type and stage of the cancer

Whether the cancer is sensitive to certain hormones

Whether the cancer overproduces (overexpresses) a gene called HER2/neu

In general, cancer treatments may include:

Chemotherapy medicines to kill cancer cells

Radiation therapy to destroy cancerous tissue

Surgery to remove cancerous tissue -- a lumpectomy removes the breast lump; mastectomy removes all or part of the breast and possible nearby structures



Contact your health care provider for an appointment if:

You have a breast or armpit lump

You have nipple discharge

Also call your health care provider if you develop symptoms after being treated for breast cancer, such as:

Nipple discharge

Rash on the breast

New lumps in the breast

Swelling in the area

Pain, especially chest pain, abdominal pain, or bone pain

The Five Steps of a Breast Self-Exam

Step 1: Begin by looking at your breasts in the mirror with your shoulders straight and your arms on your hips.

Here's what you should look for: 

Breasts that are their usual size, shape, and color 
Breasts that are evenly shaped without visible distortion or swelling
If you see any of the following changes, bring them to your doctor's attention:

Dimpling, puckering, or bulging of the skin
A nipple that has changed position or an inverted nipple (pushed inward instead of sticking out)
Redness, soreness, rash, or swelling

Step 2: Now, raise your arms and look for the same changes.

Step 3: While you're at the mirror, look for any signs of fluid coming out of one or both nipples (this could be a watery, milky, or yellow fluid or blood).
Step 4: Next, feel your breasts while lying down, using your right hand to feel your left breast and then your left hand to feel your right breast. Use a firm, smooth touch with the first few finger pads of your hand, keeping the fingers flat and together. Use a circular motion, about the size of a quarter.

Cover the entire breast from top to bottom, side to side — from your collarbone to the top of your abdomen, and from your armpit to your cleavage.

Follow a pattern to be sure that you cover the whole breast. You can begin at the nipple, moving in larger and larger circles until you reach the outer edge of the breast. You can also move your fingers up and down vertically, in rows, as if you were mowing a lawn. This up-and-down approach seems to work best for most women. Be sure to feel all the tissue from the front to the back of your breasts: for the skin and tissue just beneath, use light pressure; use medium pressure for tissue in the middle of your breasts; use firm pressure for the deep tissue in the back. When you've reached the deep tissue, you should be able to feel down to your rib cage.

Step 5: Finally, feel your breasts while you are standing or sitting. Many women find that the easiest way to feel their breasts is when their skin is wet and slippery, so they like to do this step in the shower. Cover your entire breast, using the same hand movements described in Step 4 

If you have performed all these steps and you find any signs listed above, please please head down to the hospital and speak to a doctor, you will be saving your own life.

Written by Femi Shine with input from http://www.breastcancer.org/symptoms/testing/types/self_exam/bse_steps